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| Some Helpful Tips on How to Overcome Shyness |
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It would unquestionably be an advantage for shy people to learn how to
overcome shyness. Since I am a shy person I can confirm that it can be
difficult but it is possible.
Shyness can hinder you from doing
activities that you want to do. I have missed many events and have
missed out on several relationships because I was too shy to interact
with others.
I realize that the problem is that I tend to think that I am very different from other people. I am governed by an overwhelming fear that others will not understand or like me for who I am.
It is impossible to learn how to overcome shyness if you distance yourself from others. Remember that thinking that you are different than other people is usually a misconception.
My high school counselor was kind enough to take the time to help me learn how to overcome shyness. She was aware that I had a severe lack of social skills when dealing with new people.
However, she found out just how painfully shy I was when one of my teachers called my mother to ask her if I were mute. This was because I never uttered one single word during the first three weeks that I was in the class.
I did not know how to overcome shyness and I found the teacher very intimidating. He gave me a seat in the very front row in the middle of the room. I felt like I was a target in that position. I was very uncomfortable at my seat and the fact that I never uttered a word to any one of the four students surrounding me didn’t help things either. The high school counselor asked me to see her during my study hall period of the day. I agreed because I wanted to get out of that class. The students in my class tended to focus on each other since there was really nothing else to take their attention. Very few of us used the time to actually do any school work. I can still remember the advice on how to overcome shyness that my high school counselor gave. She suggested that I consider all of the nervousness I was feeling. She also told me to reflect about how much I wanted to interact with other people and on my fear of being rejected. She added one more suggestion after I was able to focus on the factors that made being so shy so painful. She told me to turn those feelings around and acknowledge that everyone else also feels that way at one time or another. I’m still a little shy but her advice has helped me learn how to overcome shyness. |
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